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Moving Past the Fear of a Decision

By - rmagill
16.02.21 12:34 PM

Jack was feeling stuck. He didn't like his work - what he actually did there. He didn't like  his boss. At all. And the feeling seemed mutual. And his coworkers? Well, Jack wouldn't spend time with them at all if he could choose not to. He needed a new job.

But is current job was paying the bills - and then some. He knew he was slacking off at work and didn't know if he could find a job somewhere else.

He felt trapped - and anxious and fearful that he would be stuck here forever.  And he was right... at least with that mindset. But Jack doesn't have to stay stuck.

How We Get Stuck

We are often paralyzed by anxiety about not being able to make a decision. We tell ourselves things like:

  • Should I go in this direction or that direction.  There are pros and cons to both!
  • What if I make the wrong decision?
  • I don't have enough information!
  • What if I make a bad decision?
  • Very quickly, very to the point

Very quickly, we get to the point of being paralyzed - stuck - in this fear and anxiety.

How To Move Forward

Don't worry, you can find freedom from this! You can be completely relieved that you don't have to worry about making a bad decision, because at some point, you will absolutely make a bad decision. So you don't have to worry about it, it's gonna happen.

But the point behind saying you will make a bad decision - just like we all do from time to time - is that making a bad decision is not the end of everything. We can absolutely recover from a bad decision. And a lot of and a lot of times not making a decision is the worst decision because we're choosing to not take any action, we're choosing to not move in any direction. some practical pointers for moving past that fear of what if I choose the wrong decision?

  • Develop a plan for where you want to be at the end of the decision
  • Identify the most likely problems you will encounter
  • Develop a plan in case those problems happen - since you have a plan, it isn't a disaster if they do happen.
  • See problems as an opportunity to improve systems, decision making approaches, etc.
  • Stay focused on your goal and the best way to get there - not on how you need to change how you get thereyoutube