Thankfulness can be a powerful way to change our environment by changing our perspective.  While there absolutely should be rules, expectations, boundaries, and follow through, thankfulness allows us to take a step back from the frustrations, breathe deeply, and see things with fresh eyes.

We tend to see what we expect to see, and we see more of what we've already seen.  If we're expecting to see the frustration, we'll certainly find it.  Our lens can get "stuck" in the frustration pattern.  Thankfulness can directly counter this.  When we're intentionally looking for things to be thankful for, that becomes the new lens that we start to view things through.     

Practically speaking, trying to find five things each day that you're thankful for, pertaining to your child, can start to cultivate this new habit and fresh perspective.  If you're able, tell your child what you're thankful for.  If not, make a list for yourself of these attributes or actions that you appreciate or admire about your child.  

While this isn't a quick fix or cure-all, with time, this will shift your attention away from the frustration and onto thankfulness.  The focus changes from the problems to the positives.